Turmoil

Somebody said "Let it go. There is no use getting abused or letting someone exploit you."

I... I am just confused if I am actually exploited or is it just a rough patch which does not spare any relationship. A turmoil which determines the fate of every relationship and a lot of people associated, some even plainly innocent. It spares none. Relationships which are able to survive it are considered to be strong and there are others or rather most which fail.

But me... Am I selfish if I seek happiness out of a relationship?
I am often called selfish by the person I love only because I am not able get his point for what all he did to me.
Just because it is not easy for me to forgive his doings atleast forgiving instantly, this makes me selfish?

Hope life really answers me fast if I am actually a victim and should look out to heal myself or I am just simply selfish and should get to work on my character......!!!!!!!!!

:)